Questions to examine your heart to see if you have truly forgiven your spouse:
1. Do you ever get “historical” about a past hurt when you have a disagreement?
Statements like : When we were dating you said . . . or Remember when you did . . .
2. Do you pull the “quiet treatment” on your spouse because you have not forgiven them for something they may not even know they did to hurt you?
3. Are you relying on yourself to “let the past be the past” or relying on Christ forgiveness of you as your motivation to forgive your spouse?