What dreams do you have with your spouse?
What things do you look forward to doing together in the future?
What adventures do you want to go on together?
When you stop dreaming about your life together you are at a scary place in your marriage. (especially when it becomes about my dreams, not our dreams.) In the church world when you stop dreaming about what could be, you have lost your passion for your work. The same is true in our marriages. When we stop dreaming about our marriages and what they could be for the glory of God, we will lose our passion for each other.
So dream BIG dreams TOGETHER!
Start that orphanage TOGETHER!
Mentor that younger couple TOGETHER!
Go on that date you have always thought about doing TOGETHER!
Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 9:9 ESV)